Here’s what I learned about wedding planning so far (about 2 months after we got engaged):
– KISS: keep it simple, silly. Don’t stray from one idea or one brand to another when someone gives you a supposedly “better” idea. Stick to your guns about what you want and don’t be easily swayed by others (sometimes saving money is a good thing but at other times, convenience and peace of mind are also important). [Also, definitely don’t forget the actual kisses!]
– research thoroughly before deciding the big items. Try to make sure the big-ticket items are indeed what you want before you invest. But even if you decide something else later, it’s still okay to change if you realize some mishaps. (We have changed our photographer after realizing their style is not what we want — this could be more common than most like to admit.)
– don’t settle. Weddings are once-in-a-lifetime. Make sure you know what you want and love it before you commit.
– speak to the photographers and videographers (basically all vendors) in person to get a feel of how they are like in person (do your personalities match or clash?) and view their portfolios. Not all can be gleaned from just their online portfolios.
– communicate. Talk to your fiancé because he is likely to have a different perspective which will unravel your stress and make you see the situation in a different light = less stress.
– the first 2 weeks were fun and exciting but the planning became stressful afterwards once more opinions and advice were sought.
– it’s your wedding but you also have to consider your parent/mom’s wishes.. especially if you are an only child. I’ve learned that this is a big day for her too..
– have a budget.
– make your guest list asap and book your venue asap (glad and thankful we did).
– don’t forget about the relationship. Leave aside wedding planning sometimes and focus on each other.
– breathe, meditate, relax.